One simple trick to teach kids to stop slamming the door.
I was putting the last touches on dinner while daddy was outside playing with the kids.Â One of the boys ran into the kitchen through the garage and slammed the door behind him. Â
âPlease close the door gently,â I asked.Â âOkay!â He yelled from another room.
My little boy ran back into the kitchen, opened the door, ran outside, and slammed it behind him again.Â He was extrememly excited about something.Â I opened the door into the garage, and called after him, âThe door canât take much more slamming.â âSorry!â He yelled back as he handed something to daddy.
Not a minute later, he ran back in again, followed by a loud âwhish, bam!â of the door.Â âOkay,â I thought, âthis isnât working.âÂ I didnât want to give him a consequence for slamming the door, so I needed to try something different.
The trick to teaching kids to stop slamming doors
As he ran back into the kitchen, he found me standing before the door, wiping my wet hands with a kitchen towel.Â âHi!â I said, smiling. âHi?â He answered, a bit confused.Â âCan you please show me how to close the door?â I asked.
He opened the door and stepped ahead to walk out of the kitchen. âStay inside please, and show me how to close the door.â Â
He pushed the door closed.Â Although it wasnât a slam, it was louder than I would have liked.Â âOkay, thatâs better, try it again.Â But this time, turn the handle before closing the door, please.â He did, and the door made a gentle, âwhooshâ sound.Â After the door was closed, he let go of the handle. Â
âPerfect!â I said, âNow do it again.âÂ âMom!â He didnât like that I was detaining him from the fun going on outside.Â I understood how he felt, but it was important for him to remember how the door closing worked.Â âPlease,â I said calmly, âdo it again.âÂ He did. Â
Then he did it three more times.Â After the fifth time, I smiled, thanked him, and off he went to play with his brothers and daddy.
As I called everyone in for dinner a few minutes later, my son walked through the door, made a secondâs pause, looked up at me, and gently closed the door behind him.Â âWow,â I said, âThose are some great door-closing skills!âÂ He tried to hide a smile as he went into the bathroom to wash his hands.
teaching kids to close the door gently without yelling or being bossy
When kids continue to do something weâve repeatedly asked them not to do, it can be tempting to tell them again, but louder.Â And that can turn to yelling very quickly. Â
Another temptation is to repeatedly say the same thing to them over and over again. If âDonât slam the doorâ, âStop slamming the door,â and âYou will break the door if you slam itâ all get the same result, try something different. Â
There is an old wise quote that states, âThe definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.â The same applies to saying the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Be creative and try something different.Â For more ideas hereâs a post on how to talk to kids so they actually listen.
As tempting as it is to try to âstand your groundâ with an authoritative attitude toward your child, saying, âdo this because I said so,â try to understand him and speak to him calmly, without raising your voice.Â Heâs probably incredibly excited about something, so heâs flying out of the door, and the door is flying closed right behind him.
Or maybe heâs angry about something.Â Breathe.Â Kids and adults alike have the right to be angry.Â Give him a chance to calm down, and then try the approach with practicing to close the door gently several times.Â Read this post for tips on how to help your child calm down.
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