This is the thing most moms either forget do to, or don’t want to do. But it’s essential.
In a world with a million choices and decisions for moms to make, this is the one that all moms should commit to sooner than later.
Curious about the one thing most moms are not doing and why every mom should? Although self-care for moms is essential, we will talk about something different today. I will share my story and I hope it will inspire you to do this one thing I was missing.
What Most Moms Are Not Doing
It was a quiet afternoon, I was sitting on the extra-wide rocking chair in my twins’ nursery, trying to rock them both to sleep. It was a routine we developed and it worked for the time being. One baby was in my arms, the other one next to me, with his head resting on the stuffed, comfortable arm of the chair and his little feet on my lap.
I was rocking them to sleep with my eyes closed, listening to an audiobook. Then I heard a click. I opened my eyes and saw my husband in the doorway with a camera in his hands. He came home early, saw us in the nursery, and snapped a photo.
“I’ll probably delete it,” I thought. I was nowhere near looking presentable. With sweatpants and a tank top on, hair that I haven’t styled in days, and no makeup, I didn’t like the idea of being captured like this.
I took the earbud out of my ear and smiled at my husband. I was so happy that he was home early and excited to spend the nap time hour with him. That’s when he brought up the camera to his face again and snapped another photo. “Delete!” I thought.
I carefully put the twins in their cribs and left their room, gently closing the door behind me.
In a whirlwind of my busy days, I forgot about the photos. A few months after, when the twins no longer needed me to rock them to sleep (we later went through a gentle sleep training phase), I was putting together a photo album and came across those two images.
I froze. My heart skipped a beat. All of a sudden, the memories came rushing in, memories of them being tiny, of them needing me more, of me being the mom I was back then. I stroked the photos with the tips of my fingers, smiling.
These unposed, unplanned, unstaged photos are what bring back the memories. Memories of the raw reality of our busy days. Our days look different now, and yet, I keep reminding myself of the time I wanted to delete those photos, and yet again I talk myself into getting in the frame with my kids, just the way I am, just the way I look. The real me. Unstaged, unplanned, my everyday self.
With children in our home, our daily life changes so quickly. Kids grow and need our attention in different ways, we develop or replace routines, we evolve as parents. But we don’t realize how quickly things change, and how much we will appreciate the memories captured in the raw.
This was a spontaneous photo, unplanned and unstaged. The babies were kissing me and my husband caught the moment with his phone cam. There was no time to check how my hair looked, there was no making sure that my shirt wasn’t pulled too much by one of my kiddos. I’m not wearing makeup, and the photo is a bit blurry. But there is so much happiness captured here!
Why Every Mom Should Do It
Get in those photos with your babies, mama! You may think that you need to do your hair and makeup first, or get some much-needed sleep so you look somewhat rested. Or you may shy away from the camera because you still have the baby weight you want to lose. Years from now, when you’ve lost it (or even if you haven’t), you will look back at these photos of you with your children, with your hair in a bun, your baby bouncing on your soft belly, and they will be the most precious memories of the way things used to be.
Take the photos and hold on to them. Soon enough, they will become the treasured gems you didn’t know you needed. You will cherish them as much as the beautiful photos on your wall, where you were perfectly put together. In both, you will look beautiful. Because that’s what motherhood is. Beautiful.